Let’s face it: If a guy is a good liar, his partner may not know the details of what goes on behind her or his back; but betrayed partners nearly always know that something is up. MPhil tells Shawn that in order for him to end his pattern of cheating, the change has to take place with him — not Emerald. Men are less likely to consider leaving their partners after cheating. “Ninety-nine percent of the time, there’s a simple reason why: boredom,” says Steve Santagati, author of Code of donor Men: The Ten Commandments That Define All Bad Boys CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform. In some ways the moment seems marital life vaguely calculated, but it was a Thursday and we both had some place to go and no idea when we'd ever be together again. A world in which this were true would feel crazy. We spoke with M. Why then, do so many religious and cultural traditions, not to mention much of public opinion, fall squarely against promiscuity? You are supposed to be in love.