It.ould be easy to let these kids swallow us whole if groom speech we let our guard down for half a second. They are young and needy right now, and it would be easy to save everything marriage-related for after bedtime. “When we dated and were first married, we each still had fairly separate lives,” says Andrea Frank of New York City. Don't set the romance expectations too high on a day-to-day basis. Give compliments . “The irony is that a strong relationship with your partner is one of the best things you can do for your kids,” Lindquist says. Sorry, babe. 8. I don't need other wives telling me what mistakes I make, because I'm aware of them. “It's perfectly okay to agree, 'Tuesday night is Donna be our night,'” says Chang Heller. Sudden increases in problem intensity and poor conflict management, and decreases in relationship confidence, were seen in mothers after birth; a sudden decrease in relationship dedication was seen in fathers. What's worse, he was annoyed beyond comprehension by me!